Free as a Bird!
Good afternoon. We’re back for only about 20 minutes and then we’ll be doing a little more work with the DSP we’re training and then we’re going to be back on the softer side of our schedule. We’ve been training all morning and then during our break – the clients had their valentine’s party – we took care of the CSO people – there were two of them here. I like to do them one at a time because they are very transparent when they say stuff like, well I was here first. Blah, blah!There … we just sent a very short note off to the person that was going to look at our numbers from Ryland. She said two days ago she was going to get back to me, but hasn’t. I’m not sure if we gave her enough information, but I’d like some kind of response – at least enough to know whether she got my material. I know there is going to be a long time of waiting, but I feel so much better when things have shown some kind of progress. *sigh*
We’re slowing down and having to face an afternoon at work. AHA! I’ve been upstaged by a vacation. We just got back an auto note saying this Debbie person is on vacation until Friday 2/19. That means she’s not going to get to it until sometime the following week. Apparently she ran out of time and then just ran leaving things unfinished. She should have told us she was going to be out of town. Ok, so well … at least we know that and not to worry about it for a bit. We are a low rating customer in that we said we wouldn’t be able to look at anything solidly for 8-12 months. Could be more, but I didn’t want to tell them that.
Rich said something yesterday about giving his son Chris $5,000 for their wedding gift. But, then he said that the son was putting it off for another year because they are not good at saving money. He wants to do a $15,000 wedding. And, I’m guessing that wouldn’t cover it all. This is the same kid that called a month or two ago because he needed new tires for his car and he didn’t have them or the cash. I don’t know if they really saved up money for the wedding at all or were expecting others to pay their way. I just don’t see the problem. Rich likes to say he doesn’t make much money, but he should be clearing about $1500 a month even if on a $25,000 job. How much can a car payment be? There are no other expenses besides most likely cell phone. His father pays the ex and his son to live at the house without putting anything into it. I’m thinking there might be some money put on food other than what the mother puts into it, but what else? Hmm, insurance? So like $200 phone, $300 food, $400 car, $100 insurance … then what? Still should be an extra $500 for saving?
Ok, this is what happens when you micromanage others’ lives – you just don’t know what you are talking about. I’m sure there are other real expenses just don’t know what they might be like unless he’s paying on a credit card. He probably shouldn’t be getting married if he can’t afford to pay rent, electrical, cable, phone, food or whatever else is needed. ESPECIALLY – the girl is going to live for free too – so has her job income without major expense either. Just having a hard time feeling sorry, but I’m sure I’m missing something important. I wouldn’t want my kids to be going through hard thoughts from their partner’s folks.
I think it is wearing on me because after so many years in seclusion and then nearly 3 years of separation and divorce, he is still across town and can’t handle meeting me. He still sees his father, so his not coming over or meeting us is only because of me and not what his father did in having me. I know that kind of thing happens and I shouldn’t expect something, but I am getting tired of the game. It seems that almost all conversations Rich has with people – at least the one’s I’m hearing about don’t include much mention of me. YEEKS! Am I just feeling sorry for myself? This is terrible. Why should they mention me when its RICH’S conversation. Ok, calm down here. It’s just that we are a couple and shoot I sure do hate being invisible. It’s like I don’t exist if they don’t recognize me. Blah, blah, blah.
We talked to Rich this morning. He’s going to pick up his boat tomorrow and then stop by at his mothers’ to do some fishing work. I guess he doesn’t know how long he’s going to stay at either, because he said I might as well stay home and that we can go back to see his mom on Sunday for more of a visiting time. I’m very grateful that his mother will see me. I’m pretty sure she asks how I am doing. I don’t get the same from anyone else. Sometimes Rich will talk though to Bob and something will be said to make me think that Rich has to have me intervene in a decision.
But, most times, he’s only using me for an excuse to put off making a decision.
Shoot, it sounds like I’m in another funk. What’s that all about? Maybe just because it’s a Friday and I’m still at work. Lately I’ve been going home at 2 pm, but not today … still gotta work, and then we are going to be going out with Bob and Marcia for dinner. I’m not sure where because that part was all confused. We were supposed to go out yesterday, but it was too short a time period before Bob had to go to a meeting. We were going for Chinese, but now I’m thinking we are going to be going Italian because Rich wanted me to have Chinese after he left.
That’s a new part too … Rich is not going to be going to fish this weekend. Instead he’s leaving about 4:30 am Monday. The weather was unfriendly Saturday, Sunday and Monday … so he will drive on Monday and get down there in enough time to celebrate a nice Tuesday through the rest of the week. I think temps have been in the twenties, but by then they will return to at least the 50’s. Good for him.
Rich went shopping last night. He got home just before us. He then made sausage sandwiches and French fries. I know it doesn’t sound good, but it was so tasty!
After dinner I worked on the computer while he watched shows. I loaded 9 different programs onto the computer. I did the new virus one from the little computer to the big, did 6 parts to the new scanner, got the printer installed … hmm can’t remember the last one, but damned if there weren’t 9!
After everything was loaded I copied over on a flash drive the information that I’d been adding to an excel spreadsheet for Rich and I added the documents that I’d scanned in. Both got brought over to the big computer. It was soooo nice. Rich and Us had a little discussion on some changes that he wanted to implement from my work. I never take correction well, but we hung tough. At the first level – Rich said don’t worry about it I’ll make those changes later, and then later it was like nah – don’t worry about it Rich I made all those changes. I felt good about that.
And, I felt like I cleaned things up that I’d made a mess of. Not a REAL mess, but a quasi-mess. Ya know?
After that, I worked a little bit longer and made some entry type work. I really enjoyed it on the big computer. I am not as synchronized to the TV, but I can definitely hear things going on even when my back is turned toward it. As to space, I’m only about 8-10 feet away from Rich so don’t feel totally disconnected. But, there is enough disconnection that he can star into the tube unconscientiously.
Sometimes when I’m on the couch, I will just watch him watching TV. Like I can’t hardly believe you are going to make me watch this and have to listen to it! Yuck!
It’s not that I don’t want to enjoy something with him, but last night I was eager to get some work done after having missed my big computer for so much time. He didn’t want to do the things necessary to get it started until 6 pm when his show West Wing was going to be over. I was SOOOO uptight thinking this is taking forever. I jumped him when the commercial came on at 5:59 pm. Are we going to do it now, NOW???
Poor Rich … he was much happier after I was reinstalled at the computer and he was relaxing comfortably without interruption. *sigh*
I’m really going to miss him when he’s away … he’s going from Monday to Monday … so there will be next weekend without him … it had been Saturday to Saturday … ok, I know I got this weekend. Regardless I was going to lose 2 days with him. And, I shouldn’t complain because I am getting Valentine’s with him. I asked him earlier if we were going to do anything tonight after we’d gone out to dinner with Bob and Marcia. He said something to the effect lets plan on just coming home and relaxing. Well, of course you know me …
DOES THAT MEAN WERE HAVING SEX!???
Damn it’s on my mind already and he isn’t even gone. I’m like a housewife saving up for a rainy day. I’m thinking it hasn’t been a bad week for that, but this is like the last 8 minutes of the work week and I’m getting eager … 3 days OFF!!!!! With or without Rich 3 days is 3 days.
Ok, so I’m really not having any profound thoughts at this moment. Anything we want to catch up with before leaving? No, not really. We did just talk to the staff for a bit … Karla was doing her work in the next room, and Theresa was there blowing off time and Robyn and Kim were both there so it was like wow … party going on out here. That’s what we told sister when she showed up around the corner. She was in a good mood. She’s also going into a 3 day weekend. She’d just had a terrific party for the clients and all her staff were happy and paid. Words cannot be said enough how much she relaxes now in comparison to the past. As for now? Sr. Theresa is on the top of my TOP #3 List! Ok, ok … so then it’s like out the door, right?!
No MORE GRUMBLING!
posted by Ann Marie @ 2/12/2010 03:55:00 PM
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