Ayn's Multiple World

A very lovely sonely sunely Saturely

Good morning … this is me. It has been sooooo long since I’ve written I’ve forgotten yards and yards of stuff. Most important part is that we are doing better now that a few days ago. Dr. Marvin said we had a breakdown or something like that. I don’t remember exactly. But, he said that he was happy with us, because we did very well with it if you could say that all in one sentence? I’m not sure how that sorta thing goes. Pretty much though he was saying that we just were overwhelmed. I can’t remember all why we were overwhelmed, but I remember some of the stuff.

There are things going on right now that are kind of pressing … Thom is going to boot camp in about a week, we had state inspection on Wednesday and I was in charge, we’d just come from a difficult staff training session, surgery is coming up and the make or break time is on Tuesday, on Wednesday there was a scare for both cancer and chronic kidney disease because of bad test results and she’s sending us back to the heart specialist, and I’m sure there are other things, but we’re thinking this is enough for now because we’re starting to get creeped-out again.

For some reason or another when we get too overwhelmed we go into automatic suicidal mode and that’s where we went on Thursday. We were having wanting to harm ourselves thoughts and Dr. Marvin wasn’t letting us go proper, we went into a spontaneous depression. But, the difference Dr. Marvin said this time is that we stayed around enough to talk to him through it. I don’t remember what was said but I do remember making a choice through the parts to talk to him after having made another choice that we weren’t going to talk to him. So, I could sort of see his point.

It’s already hurting to think about it so we aren’t going to think much harder, but there seems to be something at the tip of our memory that we’re trying to get at before those thought processes close down all together. Hmm, maybe it’s too late … I remember him giving us a lot of questions and us answering, but things were in a daze. We were answering sluggishly. We were very tired. I remember him explaining that we were just being overwhelmed that seemed to help keep down the thoughts that we were going crazy. We were having thoughts of different ways of being hurt like rods through our brain, or being in an explosion. I think we tied these things to being in a car explosion. Toward the end we were back to wanting to hurt him, but again it never gets worse than wanting to through the Kleenex box at him.

After awhile - we figured we were safe enough to go home, but we didn’t want to go home in the car. We asked him if he would help us arrange a cab. We’d never done that from a doctor appointment in 18 years. Other than the explosive – car crashing type things - we had been talking of wanting to hide and talking about wanting to runaway – drive somewhere and not come back.

Dr. Marvin suggested determinately that we have Rich come and pick us up.

We hadn’t thought of that. We were kind of scared that he’d be upset. We asked Dr. Marvin if he would call and he did. And, then Dr. Marvin waited with us and walked us out to the car when Rich came to get us. After 9 years of hearing of each other, they finally met and shook hands. But, they didn’t talk or anything. Dr. Marvin had come out without a coat and it was cold. It was just a transfer I think of me from Dr. Marvin to Rich. I think these two must have been doing this for a long amount of years.

I remembered that we cried a lot in Dr. Marvin’s office. I don’t remember why we were crying. I think we wanted the dead thoughts to stop. I’m glad that we didn’t have to drive home that night. It didn’t feel safe. If Rich hadn’t been home, we would have slept for a while in the car before driving home, because we were so far out of things. Dr. Marvin is a kind of safe guy though. I don’t think we do this to him too often. I feel bad when it happens. One more thing I remember repeating over and over again … Dr. Marvin our brain is confused. I remember him saying something like, “I can see that.” It gave us a sense of validation that he could understand that we were having troubles thinking right. Ok, stand down … it’ll be ok, right?

I’m about to that point of needing to take a break. Maybe in 5-10 minutes. It’s 6:10 am on Saturday morning and Rich left a note to wake him up at 6:30 am.

We might go in a few early just to get snuggles in … he says he’s going to be gone most of day at least til like 5 or 6 pm because he’s got an all day workshop for baseball I think. I think he was thinking of going to his mother’s afterward … then he’ll be home tomorrow morning, but has 3 afternoon games. Pretty busy weekend. Last night though we went with him to do the banking and get the movie for him to watch … we didn’t want to watch a movie and then we ended up eating at Panera Bread, which was our first with him. We both had the bread bowl soup and ½ sandwiches. It was very good. I had a nice tomato and chicken salad sandwich. He had a vegetable noodle and turkey.

Hmm, thinking of that crawling in with him time be so nice. I think I’m going to go for it, cuz it will be a long day, k? brb.

Ok, good … that all is cared for. It’s now 7:15 am and Rich has just left. We helped him get up hehehe and then we waited until he got through the shower and dressed and took his medicine and we made his coffee and saw him out the door with kisses. He forgot his phone though and had to come back, but I think it was for more kisses. Yah, yah … that’s the truth. I think his sign-in is for 8 am and he goes straight through to 4 pm. He say’s its hard all day, but I told him I thought they’d be laughing and giggling all through it. Yah, uh huh.

When I heard sandwiches were being brought in I though Hmpf! How hard can THAT be!? He said this is the one they have to run drills and everything. He’s got to do that against the young guys … feel sorta sorry for him there, but he made his weight goal. This morning he weighed in at 279.6 WOOHOOO!!

Ok, slug-a-lug next you?

Hmm, now what’s the next part? We do know that we have to clean up around here today. Thom is coming over … and #1 is the kitty litter! Well there’s some other stuff, but that’s right up there! We really have to go through mail, but we’re draggin our feet on it. Just that we know our new car insurance card is in there so it would behoove us to find it before we need it. I know, I know.

Yesterday, we got the bank money in so that part is good. We’ll give it a couple more days for the money to clear and then we’ll make the payments to the two school loan places, the car and rent all at once. Those are our real “feel good” payments. Be nice to have the bills sorted out by then … we’re talkin a stalk like 1 foot high or more.

I’m not sure all where we are with back-dated stuff … I’m not sure where we were last at with postin or what has happened since that’s in our memory and important enough to post.

Hmm, that is interesting … I didn’t know that, but I guess the last major post I had written I had posted the first letters – one to Thom and one to a Marine.

Since then I’ve written about 12-14 letters to Thom and Marines. I think I’m one or two behind to the marines, but I know I’ve finished letter #7 to Thom.

Maybe that will be one of the goals today to post those letters to keep continuity of things that are being thought of and written. Some of it may seem redundant, but those are the thoughts that keep coming to mind, such as how proud I am of Thom and of Marines in general. I am not sure if I want to post the posts I’ve got going on over at the boards, but that is also where a good amount of my writing time has gone - that and just reading posts from what other parents are writing. It seems it’s become kind of a preoccupation, though I seem to remember Dr. Marvin saying something about spending so much time on all that. I’m sure he was giving us a cautionary, but I don’t recall exactly what he was saying.

Maybe we should set a cleaning goal. Why don’t we say about 9 am we start doing the cleaning stuff. That should be enough time. I feel Ireally need some time to be writing, but I know I need to get the other stuff done too. Just on the jittery side now. I don’t want to break up my thoughts any more than they already are. Trying to get a grip on the morning. It is now about 7:30 am and we’re just barely hanging on here - trying to get focused on something concrete.

Where are we going here? Is there an outline? A path? What do we want to be saying? Are we going in any certain direction?

This is what we were inferring to before as far as our brain being more confused. It’s harder to think.

Ok, my name is Ann. As strange as that may seem that is supposed to be who I am. I’m trying to get a grasp on my weight situation. I’ve got appointments on Monday and Tuesday for doctors. I didn’t go to work on Friday, because it was too much after Thursday. Thursday night we had a breakdown at Dr. Marvin’s office. Friday, we had to go with Rich to get my car from the garage down at UIC and we talked to Dr. Marvin on the phone at 11 am. We spent most the day in a haze. Monday, we have to go back to the radiology department and we need to get another mammogram because we had an unexplained spot that may or may not be cancerous on our left breast. It is a precautionary exam to clarify something that was seen on the exam taken on Monday. At that time, we will also be getting an ultra sound to look at the same thing from another perspective – as per their requirements.

Ok, let’s just say this is a little scary to us. One of the things they ask is if there is any breast cancer in the family. I had to say that my Aunt died of breast cancer at about 38 years of age, and my maternal grandmother had both breasts removed due to breast cancer at about my age, maybe a little older.

That made things a little scary.

During the same session we had another scare in that … not only did my doctor realize that the heart people wanted me to come back, but that the numbers on my kidney tests showed that I had chronic kidney disease. That’s all a little too scary for me right now though, so we’re going to skip over it. We’re having a little trouble with our neuropathy in our left arm and it is hurting a bit which is edging into our concentration. It’s like we are not getting proper circulation through or past the left elbow, though all we are doing is resting our arms on the table as we type. Hmm, kind of a dull sensation in the back of my left shoulder blade - it is giving us a bit of a pinching feeling that hurts. I think another reason that things got a little overboard on Tuesday that hasn’t been recognized yet was that we had a guest speaker that day from the American Diabetes Association who gave some very gloomy forecasts on how dangerous the mortality and other problems were for people with diabetes. I’m guessing now that that might have had an effect on the day’s turn of events. Like when they talked of neuropathy – he pushed it to say that it is the #1 cause of amputations … ok, this is not making me feel good.

We are trying now to get over those worn thoughts such as … if my father had lived he would have had to have his leg amputated. Yeah … this is the good stuff. Let’s move on?

Man-oh-man … surely there was some good news among all this doom and gloom stuff? Trying to recall something? It’s 8 am and we just found our Yogurt. We had our medicine while Rich was in the shower this morning.

Thom is coming over … that is the good part. Hmm, we were saying about this long weekend … after the appointments Monday morning with the cancer screening stuff, we will have an appointment with the eye testing place at about 4 pm … Rich has to go with us there because of the diabetes they will be dilating our eyes to check for whatever they check for. It was another thing required of by Dr. Albright. I think we had our eyes checked 2 years ago, but maybe it was last year? I’m not sure … I know it was around our birthday, because Rich helped us with our glasses as part of our birthday present. It was the same time we went to my grandmother’s, but I can’t remember how long ago that was.

Maybe two years. I’m not sure. Rich said something about taking us out somewhere after that, but I’m not sure where we’ll be with our diets.

After that – on Tuesday – we’ll have a couple more appointments. Rich is supposed to go with us to see Dr. Berger, and again to see Andrea. Both are from the Wellness and nutrition clinic. These are the last of the 6 month meetings prior to the surgery. If all is going well here – and at the Thursday meeting with the doctor from psychology – then we should be able to submit the papers for insurance for the surgery. It’s really an important week coming up. I’m hoping for good things. I think though starting today, I’m going back onto the liquid diet – maybe tomorrow? I’m not sure … I’ll figure it out … I took a preliminary weight check this morning and it was terrible. Hmm, let me check now.

Yes. It says 314 … that’s terrible … 5 pounds up where it’s supposed to be … I think we have to tell Thom not to bring a sandwich for me … cuz we’re going to drink our lunch … back to two shakes per day. We’re out of control. Yeeks! Ok, this is serious. From this point on … just liquid diet. EXCEPT that one last orange in the fridge. Don’t want to waste that.

Ideal would be 300-305 by Surgery meeting. That mean 20-25 “safe” weight by time we see Dr. Ayloo. Time to buckle down. AND! We need to be drinking more water – not to mention some exercise wouldn’t hurt, hmm?

Ok, we’ll not give us a stroke here.

Then the following week – have to check the date we have an appointment with the doctor for the arthritis … we are doing fairly well with that – not quite as well as the first month, but pretty good all told for coming up to two months on the one corticoid set of shots. I’m not sure what he’ll do with that … I’m wondering if we only get so many of them, or if I have to wait until the pain gets real bad again before I get the next set. I am still being able to walk almost all the way to the psych docs offices, but I give out about the elevators. It’s almost all the way though. I’m using the chair now just to hold on to steady myself and as a safety net. Most of the time I’m walking all the way down the hall without stopping to push myself. This is a very good thing.

Ok, that’s enough of medical for a bit, hmm? Was thinking that I remember some of the other stuff I used to write about … like I used to give some time to the people relationships like Sweetie Pie and work and such. Well, not too much on work, but some. Sweetie Pie is doing pretty good, but as normal is working too hard. He’s as handsome and as studly as ever. Less cheeks to pat though with this weight loss. Yeeks not supposed to say stuff like that, right?

Sorry. Slipped.

It will show up in the letters to Thom when we get them printed so I won’t say too much here, but we did get to seeing the house that we were looking at before WITH Rich. AND, as it turned out … Rich LOVED the house – though he was calling it LUXURIOUS LIVING! Hehehe. Funny Rich. He said that if we were going to live there even though the house was $350,000, that we’d have to have a half million to put into the place. I think that he is right – especially because I looked at all the things I’d want to go with it and I’m sure that I’d want all the extras. I don’t know if he’s already looking at the 3 car garage for the boat.

While we were driving on the way out – this was all last Saturday by the way … we talked over a few of the negative attitude things … things like giving advice on not criticizing things first before thinking more positively. Not to say SOMEONE sometimes does that – because he was already criticizing and we hadn’t even gotten to the house yet. Hehehe. That smoothed itself out. When we got there … we found that our sales person no longer worked there and that the sales people were having a marketing thing so they let us go see the house on our own … that was a very good idea. It gave us a chance to see like 3-4 other houses as well. Rich wanted to see some of the lesser houses to get a comparison of what he would be paying for. We went on as long as we could, but none of the houses had toilet paper, and after a while that became a problem.

The main house we looked at was as gorgeous as the first time … though we were looking at it more as a salesperson to Rich than as to us soaking it up.

Like we’d walk in the foyer and say … note how wide it is, or note the wainscoting. The house was very impressionable. One of Riches thoughts that we don’t like is that we don’t need this much room. But, we are very much in disagreement. We think we need this much room PERFECTLY. He seemed to lean toward seeing the great room first before seeing the other minor rooms so we made sure that he got the view on the hassock that took in the dining room, garden, living room and kitchen. We knew that was an impressionable seat from when we came in the last time.

This spot is a terrific selling point. He would make a comment like there were too many tables. Because he’d see the one in the dining room, kitchen nook, and two they’d placed in the garden room (like one card table), plus the coffee table. We explained that’s only one version and that we’d have the garden room being a garden room. We talked of the outside being maintained by them, so just immediately around the house we might be able to landscape, but pretty much the real garden might be in this one space and that it would open a panoramic view within the house. I can imagine it to be tile matching the kitchen and I would like to see the living room and dining room wood and if any room were to be carpeted – it would just be the bedrooms, because those rooms wouldn’t have as much walk through and would last longer, but otherwise they’d be wood too. Bathrooms, of course, would be tile. I thought I saw an option too that you could choose a floor covering for the basement so there wouldn’t anything beside cement be great!

Rich was pretty sure that we’d have a nice big screen right next to the living room fireplace and he didn’t hold long enough for me to explain the double dining room cabinet idea. Hmpf! Men. I think what he saw was the perfect huge plasma tv he could see from the kitchen, dining, or living room. I still see the small bedroom as being a cozy movie/game room. Because I’m pretty sure with grandchildren and sons and such that there needs to be a room pulling aside those who would rather play than talk. We just need to keep up with the latest game consul and controller and have them bring their games with them.

Rich was talking space needs and saying why do we need this much space if we’re going to see them once a month … and our thought was WHAT?!

WHAT?! Are you kidding?! We are going to have kids and grandchildren over weekly and if not that monthly!!! PLUS, over for the holidays and for sleepovers!

I’m soooo ready for being a place that our kids would enjoy being over. I know that Chris is going to stop over after he gets used to me, or after he learns I will give him and his dad some space, AND I’d like to see Jon come up more often for weekends – though that have to be squared away with his mother problems – but, the room would be available! AND, I know that Maury visits his Dad, I figure that if we had a place more inviting PLUS through in some free dinners … maybe he could come visit us more often too. He’s getting the girls old enough again that Isa is going to be soon toilet trained and nobodies crawling around so much. Plus, we can be pretty sure the kitties box will be down in the basement! Though we’re not going to want that hole space messed up. Have to still figure that out.

If we have a space nice enough to hang-out then maybe we can get Joe over there too. I’m pretty sure that if we keep throwing in meals – and since Rich doesn’t have me to cook for, maybe he’ll enjoy having some real cooking company! AHA! There is method to the madness! I think that Rich and Joe are going to be a good match as to one learning business from the other. Rich has got a whole lot of ideas. I would like to see Joe learning Rich’s system of MS Outlook from Rich. As well, Rich could teach Joe quite a bit about MS Spreadsheets through excel – as to business forms.

Hmm, ok … now we’re in another time and space. It is 11:30. The place is picked-up and we’re showered and dressed and pretty much just waiting for Thom and getting back to the writing. We’ve turned on some music which is an experiment from the car. Rich and us picked out three artists from his relaxation station – Paul Horn, Jace Vek, and Davol and others like them and I found them and made a playlist … we’ll see how it goes … let’s hope it doesn’t get so weird that Thom has to comment. Hehehe It’s kind of weird futuristic type stuff flutes and chimes and stuff. I like it for its dinstinctiveness. *Sigh*
Before or during the cleaning we got into some other stuff on the computer … Pretty much we opened our own MS Outlook and was cleaning it up a bit and came across a bunch of stuff that some auto feeds were sending us. We dismissed most the about 100 of stuff, but checked through the MS stuff AND we came across Bill Gates last annual meeting presentation. Wow that was cool … I think it must have been about 45-60 minutes. There were other speakers too. We saved it to OneNote. I think I’d like to have Joe listen to it and maybe V. I’d like the other boys to hear it and Rich, but I don’t know who has the patience. It all kind of builds up to the last few minutes where Bill Gates introduces a bit of the future. Not to spoil anything, but he had a box design, which I imagine will get smaller, but you point it at things and it tells you stuff – like it was pointed at his partner and it told him that the partner owed him $20 bucks. Then he pointed it at a movie theatre and it told him the movies and it gave him the options to order two tickets at a particular time and then he sent the other ticket to his friend. Then he aimed it down the street of this picture of the town and it showed him a restaurant and you might guess it gave him the menu and then it interactively showed him the walking path to the restaurant like around bushes and benches and garbage cans. It was a pretty cool gizmo like you just had to have one!

In some of the other stuff it connected better music to phone to computer to TV to car, etc. Oh, he put together and purchased some kind of skate board from a flat screen devise with his fingers pointing and moving objects by making choices. He stated that objects will become more 3D – basically it was a presentation on where we’ve come in the last digital decade and where we’ll be going in the 2nd decade. It was pretty exciting and of course they have Microsoft leading the way as it might, well have to see how mobile or flexible it is.

Go ahead MS – lead away!

Just have to learn how to sync MS Outlook and some of their other simple Office tools. I can do this, right? Need to be following along. Hmm,

Ok, next?

Wow … I really like the music. Wait until Rich gets home. I’m going to ask him to make a list of other artists. Ok, I did that … gave him a lunch time message.

Hmm, message came up for Thom … I’m going to snooze it for 15 minutes then give it another 15 and then call him to see where he’s at … last time he was 2 hours late, but tried to call. This time I’ve got the phone right here and am ready. But, I’m not expecting prompt. Just hoping he comes over, cuz I’d like to see him.

Hmm, got up to brush our hair and I got dizzy … so we decided to get a pudding … I know big news flash… just its been awhile since we were rambling freely on the blog get to write anything, ya know!

Ok, we’ve got some time here let’s do some focusing … did we finish with Rich?

I don’t know where we …

WooHOOO! That was Thom. He called to say that he was just walking home from something … don’t know what, but he said he was 20 minutes from somewhere. He was asking if we were still on for lunch and we said yup yup.

He started to suggest we could do here or I could come out there … and I said naw come this way … I wanted the last images to be homeward. He seemed to understand.

Wow! Before I could even finish writing the last paragraph then Rich called too.

He’s just finishing up his lunch break. He said … good on the music and that he’d pick up a few more names. Maybe he could get some of his other funky stuff … he really hears some cool stuff. We had been talking about whether or not we should get the place wired for sound like he had his house where we’d get music like he gets in his car – or whether we should keep the stuff I get on the computer. He said his cost $10 a month where mine cost $15 a month, but I could listen to almost ANYTHING, where he was just getting specific channels.

I liked my deal better, though I can’t get my stuff to the kitchen where he’s working sometimes. I’m not sure, but we should be able to fix that somehow.

He can’t d/l on his computer or I’d set him up as one of my 5 stations, but then we could only listen one at a time.

AHA! I gave myself a couple of scheduling and tasks suggestions. Like I found the pizza number as a to-do item… I really need to learn to use the scheduler for here and at work. The timer is very good. And, I like the style of colors etc and buttons and such at my command. There was always good reason to get the bigger screens and that was to have visual things in my site line. I wanted to be able to use Windows appropriately. No, not to distract – to elucidate my wildest dreams! Hehehe. I want to become one… Hmm, now back to that issue with the phone.

Hmm, ok. We’re here … Thom has come and gone.

We’re pretty stuffed with pizza. I should have seen this kinda meeting coming, but it came at me from out of left wing. Thom came in gave me a hug, but hit the TV on the way to the couch while announcing he didn’t want to talk about the Marines. Like at all. So, it was like then you just wanna watch this show you found even though its not about anything? Yup. Ok… I think I’d just as soon be at the computer, but … oh go ahead. Hmm, ok. Not exactly as I had planned … Oh pizza guy! Good!

So, we both sat down and each had pieces of our own pizza. Thom had thin crust cheese and pepperoni, and I had deep dish vegetable – onion, green pepper and mushroom. He had regular and I had diet rite RC. We ate … made some comments on the movie from Canada about a couple of whacked out women who disturb each other’s life by coincidence through their driving, and then end up in an accident at the end where one has her leg amputated and kills the other. Uh huh. It was a real good show. Certainly. BUT, I was watching it with Thom, so that made quite a bit of difference. I love that kid. BUT, he was a little cold today.

Toward the end … he laid on the couch not facing me, grinned his teeth and told me I could ask him my 20 questions. He responded with as little excitement as possible. Don’t worry about it Mom. Ok, going on. Not worrying about anything, hmpf! When he got done with the questions, he picked him self off the couch, tucked away the extra pizza and pop and made toward the door explaining he could come once more next weekend probably, but he would not want to talk about the Marines. We said fine … bring a DVD … he said you have one – he saw Rich’s which for some reason, might not work, because we don’t use it. Maybe Thom could fix it. Eh, we use the computer. That would be fine too. Just be nice to be experiencing Thom EVEN if we were just watching a screen. I know … barely meets the tolerable scale, but it’s Thom.

It was very nice that he gave me some time today. I really appreciate that.

As to answering some questions, Thom is going to store his car over at his grandmother’s garage – made sense. He’s still got to check on the insurance part. He says that he doesn’t have to much furniture left and that he will make sure someone has it before he goes. He thinks Joe will want his bed, and I think he was looking out for his table. Maybe that will stay with Joe for the time being too. He’s held onto that should want it back. He says he’ll store his personal things like clothes over at his father’s. He didn’t need any extra storage space. He said that his father would have his car keys and that it would be up to him if he was going to drive it, because it might need an oil change or something.

As to his address book, that area was a disaster. He was going to wait on that til the last day – and, he didn’t want any more help from that than none. He said he didn’t have anyone’s address and that it would work out on its own. I think basically, what will happen is that people who want to write Thom will make the effort of finding the right person with his address and then they will write, and then Thom will have their address IF he chooses to write back. He didn’t want any help with mailing addresses or anything. Almost anything seemed to complicated for him. He was just going to play it by ear. I did tell him in advance that sometimes parents mailed their kids blank envelopes pre stamped and labeled with paper to make it easier to write home. Might go that route. I don’t think he’s going to put a whole lot of thought into it. Maybe If I send him one a week?

I asked him if his recruiter had my phone number or address. He said that he didn’t know, but that he didn’t sign anything saying that Jackie was his mother. He did say that he signed his father as his emergency contact so that anything that happened would go though him. Most likely, then it would go through Maury and then to me. I’m going to put a call into the recruiter and ask if I can be given a call secondarily to the father. The father can take care of the emergency; I just want to know about it. They must have some way of handling divorce situations. I don’t want to put Maury in line for having to tell me if something really bad were to happen to Thom. I would rather hear it from the Marines directly than putting him through it.

Thom didn’t have the weekend plans down, but Maury called while he was here.

He said he would call back tomorrow. I think Thom might do something like I said before, but it will be pretty informal. He sounded like tomorrows deal was going to be pretty small too. I’m not sure about all that. I don’t know how hard they tried to get others to come. They didn’t get me. Hmpf! I told Thom that we would get together with the brothers if he would like or not … just we would like to know how he would like to be sent off. I was recommending though a full stomach, because it was going to be a while before he would get fed again when he got to California. I think he understands that when he leaves I might cry.

There wasn’t anything Thom wanted me to do for him before he left. There were no nagging threads. He didn’t want to talk about anything extra any more. He did say that it was ok for Rich to come to the graduation. When I asked him who else was coming, He said everyone wanted to come. I said did that mean his father would be there. He said probably. I asked did that mean his grandmother would be there. He said probably. So, I thought … so be it. It will be a big show, but I’ll be the only one there that will be Thom’s mother.

Plus, I’ll be with Rich so that will make me very, very happy and secure.

I forgot to ask the question as to if anyone else had the Marineparents.com address, but now I’m kinda glad I didn’t see the question. Feel like keepin a little of Thom all to myself. He thought too that nobody was really meant to be at the airport. He’ll have to go a few steps further to figure out when was the last time he’d be seeing people. We reminded him the recruiter would have him at the hotel by 8 pm Sunday night. There wasn’t anything special that he wanted to safeguard. And, as to the last question – I think it made him smile a second. We asked if there was anything we could do to help us understand him better. He didn’t think so. So that was about that of the questions.

Rich just called … It’s about 4:15 pm. He must have just gotten out of the meeting, but he was already close to the grocery store. He was going down a list of what to get. We reminded him we’d gotten a pizza that he wasn’t going to like, so he declared that he would get himself a steak. I thought that was fair.

I’m pretty pizza out right now, but maybe later after he was home and had cooked for a while we’ll be hungry again. It’ll be nice that he’s home. I hope he’s not into one of his busy moods.

Rich is trying to explain to us that guys are different they move in a line. They go from one thing to another straight away, so for example if sex isn’t on the list then it won’t happen, but if it is nothing else will happen until it’s gotten. Kinda leaves me feeling in the way of a train. Same way of reasoning if he’s paying bills, or making dinner, or reading, or doing business, that’s all he’s doing.

During those times, he’s very anti-social. Except whatever he’s doing he’s looking as cute as the dickens and as scrumptious as a cherry pound cake!

Hmpf! That seems like a lethal combination.

Rich seemed in a pretty good mood and we understood before he left that we MIGHT be in line for that sexual foray WooHOOO! Yup, yup … been awhile now … bout time! But, as sure as we’re sitting here, by the time he gets here, we’ll be saying oh noooo, not for us! We can’t do that! Go figure!?

AHA! We found a sound bit to remind us that we needed to be having sex.

We’ll give it about 2 hours. That makes it about 6:30 pm. Plenty of time for talking and cooking and eating and sitting and such. AND THEN!!! AHA! I sure hope buddy face comes home pretty soon. I miss him.

Hmm, think we’re almost to the end of a posting day. Is there anything else we want to talk about? I don’t think so. We did get that one call from Maury and he’s worrying about the job. I had thought he wouldn’t know until early this week, but he thought he’d know by now. I hope I was right, because I can see how tense he is already because of it. As it turns out – Chris his Uncle decided suddenly to take off for a couple of weeks to go on vacation in Florida to his mother’s place leaving Maury and the other two guys working with him without paychecks. I think that’s the most irresponsible thing, while Maury and Thom are trying to say no that’s perfectly normal. ACK! That’s not normal to cut someone off his lifeline with no notice. Thom was trying to say because it was part-time and temp he owed Maury less commitment, but I think that’s a farce that only a Garvey could make up. The fact is that Chris told Maury he could count on him until he found a job, but then he couldn’t … I think the guys an asshole like his brother. And, that’s all I’m going to say about that!

I don’t know I’ll check it out with Rich … BUT, I am still going to be thinking asshole.

We were talking to Maury about making back-up plans. Maury has one back-up plan to be a driver with I think Ford for small parts. He’s not enthused about the job, but it would be money and more money coming in than the other jobs. It would be like $17 an hour union. I think someone would have to get fired first for the job, so that part is unsettled. Maury would have to make sure he really wanted the job before he requested it and put both the other two people on the spot. I think the connection is through his future brother-in-law – so you don’t know if he wasn’t just talking out of the side of his mouth. In that case it would be in poor form for Maury to push it. If the job doesn’t go through, I’m going to recommend that Maury get connected to JVS Job service.

Maybe that will help out. I think pretty much he has his own resume, but they might have some business contacts that would help him out. I think he’s over qualified for the jobs that he’s been applying at. I’m afraid though that at their services mostly you do all the hunting, BUT you get some positive support.

Could be a good deal.

Need to give Maury something positive. Maybe they could help him get a job out toward the suburb where he would like to be working instead of in the city direct. That’s one of the reasons he wanted Comcast … it was only 3 blocks or so from where Lauren works in Oak Park. I think it’s moving out further west in the suburbs, but that’s not to Maury’s disadvantage either.

Hmm, 5 pm … we were doing some important business like adding pictures to business size contact cards and low and behold the angel of sweetie pies walked in, but now he’s in the bathroom with someone. God only knows. I think there is a phone attached at ear with that guy! Hmpf! Someone hasn’t even gotten her kiss yet! Me thinks we better post … still working toward that sexual interlude, right?!!!

posted by Ann Marie @ 3/01/2008 05:17:00 PM Comments: 0