We're still on the weekend ... this is Sunday the 29th
Good morning … this is me. I’m not sure if you can tell, but we picked up a little sunburn yesterday … woohoo … Just what we wanted, right? Well, it seems to have done the trick, because the scale shows a drop of 5 pounds. I have to acknowledge though that we didn’t have the clothes, shoes, and meters on like we had yesterday. I think as long as we mark the differences, we will be ok. It’s almost 7 am now.
Hmm, we’ve got ms Silly Cat here now. How’d that happen. Does she wait until we start typing?
Ahh … there … we just accomplished a nice petting of Missy. How do you know for sure she was here? AHA!
That is not a feather duster in our ear! Silly cat. The break was very nice and we kind of zoned out for a bit. She was so silly. I think it goes on for like 10 minutes and then she finds she’s had enough and goes merrily and much more calmly out of sight. She’s like that.
Hmm, now we are thinking should we be taking a shower before Rich gets up. Today is the day that we see Joe. We’ve finished up on some of the prelimary meter reading.
Oh we started that? Well anyway … we averaged out on blood pressure to be 97/55.
Rich was 126/77. His pulse was lower than ours 71 to 82. Blood glucose averaged 153, which can’t be good, and we figured we counted about 24 hours on the clock and of that did 7.5 minutes on the treadmill, but there was going to Ame’s and the zoo.
We counted 3313 steps for an average of 4.49 steps per minute. Rich totaled about 8617 steps. He had done two games, plus he was out. We averaged 1.04 miles and Rich got in 2.6 miles. I didn’t get in his calories, but we supposedly burned an extra 159 calories. We each had one transgression. I ate a caramel malt and he had a rib tip dinner. Both events involved the kids … where we spotted the Culver’s coming out onto the main strip at the same time we were thinking how nice a shake would be. Rich had the tips while out with his son. This should be teaching me a lesson. Basically, I know I’m going out with Joe, so I should plan ahead. I am fairly confident, we’re going to have a Chef’s salad, or whatever you call it … maybe Julienne? I know for a salad that’s high in calories, but it will be worth not going over with something else.
Hmm, thinking that we still are needing that shower? I think though that Rich is thinking about housecleaning. Ugh … that sounds terrible. Do I want to clean after I’ve already showered, or do I want to start fresh and handle it. Hmm, setting my alarm for 6:15 am. Maybe we should keep a steady consistent shower time. Hmm?
Ok, we’re going for it … 7:30 am now … let’s make it a good day!
Good good. Shower taken, fully dressed, and metered up for the day. It’s almost 8 am … wondering how sleepy bunny is doing … wooHOOO Sleepy bunny just got up! He’s such a good boy.
I don’t know if he’s going to shower right away … he is usually pretty close. Good Rich.
We had the most phenomenal time last night. He came home about 7:30 – 8:00 pm I think … and I don’t know how it was that we got into … Oh, I know I’d followed him into the bedroom to watch him unload himself hehehe … then it was well naked is a good thing for back rubs, and so that happened for a short while, but then we ended up going into the living so he could have his legs and feet rubbed – after all, he’d done a double game So, then things lead to as they may and that in itself is terrific, but then there was some wonderful talking that happened afterward. Rich talked a lot about his experiences as a youth and about a close friend that didn’t turn out to be a great close friend and some of the trouble they got into.
Now its about 10 minutes to 10 … we’ve been talking to Rich again and ate breakfast. He is in the shower now … all I can do not to go in there and pinch his bottom! SSHHHH none of that stuff pray tell!
He is such a good story teller. He talks about the stuff that happened long ago or maybe just last week or so. He can remember everything … and we get mesmerized by it. I think he needs to do a lot of talking to clear out his mind a bit. I think he’s been holding things in for a long time and it’s probably very healthy to be talking about it. I enjoy hearing his stories and I find myself incredibly interested in all that has happened in my sweetie’s life both good and bad. I wish there was no bad stuff, but we’re finding that out too, that there have been times that he’s been hurt by people, but he’s just suffered through it on his own. One story of this morning was of how the wife would say she hated her children when she was mad, and particular hated everything about her husband. It’s just a terrible mistreat of human life. My heart goes out for him. I don’t know how he managed and although he says he was used to it, I don’t see how anyone can be used to people being mean to him. Just breaks my heart.
I think part of what is going on here relates back to something I’d learned from college and that is the human construction of life. It means basically, that we fit things that we recall into certain patterns and construct new realities, particularly when sharing self with another and together that becomes a joint reality.
Well, we got to this next part. It’s now after our dinner with Joe and we don’t expect our Sweetie Pie back until up to 2 ½ more hours.
We have to focus here on where we are … we talked and listened to Joe so much we’re a little dizzy. We’re thinking it might be good to take a little nap? Ahhh … wouldn’t that be fine. Awe would that nap be nice??? Oh ok, maybe after a nice long cold drink of water, but you know the direction we want to be heading.
Well up again!! Now it’s about 6:15 pm and our Sweetie Pie’s been home for about a half hour. We’ve been talking and he’s been putting away stuff and stuff. Now he’s using the washroom and he wants me to consider doing kitty litter. HMPF … well you know what we think of that chore! I know, I know it’s a dirty job and someone’s got to do it. *Sigh* Should I do it now, or should I wait. Seems like it would be good to get it over. But, then I have to lift the heavy bag … It’s never as bad doing it than thinking about it, and we could give ourselves the orange treat later, but it’s still a chore… We could do it for fishyman though … we kinda like him and don’t want him to be around stinky stuff.
AHA! We’re back … Kissable bunny is sitting on the floor in back of me … he’s going to do a few things for his son’s FAFSA. That’s a good idea. We’re having a cool down period. Probably a bad idea to do a reading right after eating an orange … She read 211. Well, need to know those numbers too. We’ll wait on getting Rich’s numbers after a while. We don’t want to throw him off. My steps at this point are a poultry 477. Seems as if when we go out tonight, we should do some walking … but not a lot, but something to get us past 1000. Didn’t do very much at all. So that would correspond to only .15 miles walked today and 12 calories used up. That’s not enough to fix a piece of chocolate cake! Yeeks who said that? *Sigh* Shhh
It’ll be ok, it’ll be ok.
We didn’t talk about or day yet … well you know the part of us waking up and you know the part of us taking a nap, but in between things, we really did do something. You know remember … we went out with Joe. That is as always an excellent adventure. It seemed though that he was a little more concerned with Thom than normal. I think he’s frustrated that he can only go so far with him and then he gets angry at others inability and he quits what he is doing. He said something too about Thom’s recognition that he is depended on his girl friend. I think that sort of thing has to be worked out with him. Joe and I talked a little about how I was depended on his father when younger, and needed to do things so I didn’t do the same with Rich’s relationship. I think Rich is very cautious of this point too, but at least we can talk about it and come to conclusions that are healthier for us.
It’s an exertion. I think Dr. Marvin would say that it’s a process where we were in youth trapped into being helpless and depended on people who weren’t taking care of our needs. His point would be that we should be doing that for ourselves. And, if one part can’t do it … other parts need to lend a hand. And, I guess that’s what
should be happening for school too.
Joe talked about a lot of things that were on his mind. He talked about being good with his Dad, stepmother, and living at his father’s place. He talked a good amount with Bob in that they are more than step brothers, they are real brothers. Hmm, that reminds us … we sent a series of pictures to Joe and then Maury, so they would both see that Rich is White. I guess I don’t think it would have really matter, they’ve been accepting of him all these last 10 years thinking that he was Black. I find that very interesting. But, for the record … I think that they got that idea because working for JVS everyone seemed to be black and they may have confused Rich for Sean … I had both these people I considered bosses over me. But, for anyone else curious he’s umm White. There was some talk about being like step siblings toward one another. I think from what I’ve got from Maury and Joe they are face forward with it … especially about meeting Rich. I’m sure they are curious to this meeting, but they’ve lived with it for so long, maybe they have reason to think … well, if it were ever to happen. I told him Rich has placed at least a year on it, but things are always changing and that we’d see. I told Joe about him only telling his kids he was staying with a different friend and that he knew me for a long time, but is not being specific. I don’t know if anyone of them has figured out we’re a multiple, and if they have if there have been questions. I don’t know about it though. That’s sort of Rich’s way of “protecting people.” I know why he’s doing it so that helps a lot.
Joe talked quite a while about the game that is still going on on the computer with family and friends. It seems that some of his attention has waned. I see him comparing it with being a Trooper and it doesn’t hold the same water. As for that … if he had doubts, he’s got them pretty well hidden. He’s putting 100% of his mental energy forward with it and he’s doing very good. I know that its coming up on Wednesday, so some of the anticipation should be coming to a close. I know that he’s very excited and thinks probably more of this than anything else. He’s doing things as a cop like shades and hair cut. He says that he’s ready to be put to the test. I can hear him clarifying his life almost as to make an accounting for who he is and his thoughts. We talked about fighting and good guys and bad kind of stuff.
He’s like so ready to be the good guy. And, he’s ok with the parts of killing if he has too. He seems to have been thinking about learning the weapon of a gun. I think because of his karate he thinks of it seriously as he might a pole or numb chuck. That’s a very healthy idea. He’s so quick and responsive.
We talked also about his work with gymnastics and karate. He talked for a pretty good amount of time about the people that he was coaching, and in particular about one boy that was difficult to invest time with due to his poor attitude. Joe will come to terms with all that. His gymnastics only has a week left and then he will put more time into karate. He says it’s about 3 ½ hours per each per day. That’s pretty cool. I like that he’s that much invested. Another thing that I’ve heard Maury say, but is still kind of a nice surprise is that both Joe and his step brother have taken times to be picking up Ame from school. I think this is the kind of niceness that is just the boys.
Another thing that we talked about was girls. I think he’s having a real bad experience with his step brother’s choice. Mostly, he sees someone that is very needy and he thinks that Bob has gotten himself into something that he can’t get out of because of her physical problems. He talked about their arguing and about how she wasn’t as bright and had little to do with her time. I think this was important to Joe one in looking out for his brother, but as well, kind of a way of shopping around without getting real invested. He seems pretty clear that he can wait until he settles 2-3 years into the job and wherever he will be going.
Whoops more on this later … fishy man and us are going on a drive WOOHOOO!!!!
posted by Ann Marie @ 5/05/2007 10:53:00 AM
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