Thursday's work - first day off ... beauty!
Dear Mi. Good morning. We have been up for about an hour fiddlin around. I start the morning on the computer by checking the emails. I had gotten one from Rich’s wife inviting us to join her MySpace. We didn’t join. I saved the email to show Rich. But, it’s going to make him worry. Just he has a right to know. I don’t have much to say about that. I was more concerned because I remembered the group I’d started at Yahoo. I need to figure out how to make that private, but I couldn’t do it yet this morning. It was pretty frustrating. I guess I will cancel it all together if I have to … It’s under another name.
There is always this nagging feeling like she can break into my blogs, but I know they are secure. It’s just that if she had opened one before and never closed it – then would she still have access. Or could she have hit a back browser button and gotten back in that way. I was relieved when Rich told me the first time that his son had told him it looked suspitious, because I had closed my blogs, so in this regard I’m hoping they no longer have access. It’s a mental game for her to have sent the blog address. We’re going to let it go though.
As to other news and developments … all seems well. Right after I woke up I met Sweetie Pie as he was going to the washroom hehe I got in my snuggle, but he said I couldn’t follow him back to the bedroom, or I would wake him up. Soooo, we let him go. I figured it wasn’t a good time to ask if he’d been lucky at cards. We’ll talk later. I had known he was home because his door was open a crack, but I know better than to wake a sleeping friend! Silly goose.
Yesterday I called all three sons and got a hold of the two oldest. I made sure they all knew about me being off over the next four days, about the change with Rich and about Easter. Maury, of course knew about Rich, but he was caught up … usually doesn’t take more than a paragraph or two. Boys are pretty much right to the point as to their concerns. He hadn’t talked to his brothers yet, so I told him he could catch them up, but I’d introduce the topic through the phone. Thom’s call was disappointing. He still hasn’t gotten a new phone and his is terribly garbled … he listened, but then said he only heard about 30% and that his connection was bad and he had to go. So, that’s that with that. Joe, we left a message, but I’m not sure … usually he doesn’t call back, although he might stop by on line. Hmm, I may not have included him right when I set the buddy list settings. We’ll see. I made the adjustments. I had been worrying cuz I hadn’t seen him on-line to drop a note. Ok, that’s taken care of. I will try to again contact Joe today. I have the next four days off so would like to do something. Maury stated that he was having his regular morning breakfast for Easter and that he had invited about 25 people. They will be too busy preparing on Saturday to have any special plans. So, I talked to him and asked him to ask his brothers, if anyone wanted to get together next weekend. Thom got that message too. Though I gave him and out by saying go ahead and think about it. So, we’ve done our Mom thing and will see how things go next. I’ve still got to figure out the money thing.
My account says that I still have $250 in there and it looks like everythings gone through, but I think something that I’d originally sent out didn’t go through. I’m not sure what it is though.
I’ll check it again I guess if I hear from Joe that he might want to go out. I feel like he’s kinda hiding and I don’t like that at all.
Hmm, got Missy on my arms now. She’s been not here for a little bit so we’re giving her some time. It means I can’t use my mouse so the bank statement stays up … drat! Don’t want to disturb her she’s purring so nice. I have to remember later to check the account for my videos. I don’t see anything here even though its only $4.15. I’d like to reinstate the music one too, but I’m willing to let that go for the time being. Sister wrote a note saying that dental insurance had gone up. I didn’t like that too much … Not sure how much, but it means my salary is working in the wrong direction and I’ll be making a little less. It’s just a matter of dollars I’m sure, but everything affects everything.
Oh oh I rustled Missy. Ok, she whacked me a couple times, got profuse pettings and now is calmed down again. Hmm, affects coffee drinking and rubbing ones nose if necessary. I always gets stray hairs it seems when being whacked. Feel like those silly gophers at the State Fair. Sheesh. Ok, calm down girls it was innocent … Sheesh … shhhhh
Ok, what’s next. Let’s see wrote you about work and there’s nothing much to say about last night. Our sweetie pie was in a pretty good mood when he got home a few minutes after us. We met him in our suit that contains only bunny feet. Silly grin. He said ok, ok let me in the door … let’s shut the door. Hehehe I just love that guy. He said something about needing the washroom … like and waste all that good feeling you up time? Wow. *giggle* ok, you stop that. We did get a little time together. His baseball game got called on account of snow or cold or something like that. That was nice. He let us eat some cake before dinner, which was frozen in the microwave. Just a piece though … We talked. I think the conversation was pretty lite … He was in a better mood. Maybe it had something to do with having been led down the bunny hole noooooooo don’t take it like that! And, maybe the fact that he was going to play cards with his friends. I don’t think he was optimistic about winning, but he enjoys the night out with the guys. He did say that he had told his second best buddy friend from high school and like the other the friend had offered him a place to stay. Not much room there, but the gesture was very kind nonetheless. Everyone seems to think he should have left a while ago. He said something about the last couple of months, but he did not elaborate much on whether it had gotten suddenly worse, or if it was just a matter that the time was becoming impossible. He stated it I think such as it being an impossible situation. I don’t know just glad he got out.
He’s still working through the scenarios where he tries other living arrangements.
I know he too is a little worried about appearances living here. He talked about the option of setting up space over at Bob’s … and keeping his car over there while staying here, but then again he talked about changing spaces so that he could park his car behind mine. I told him that we needed to talk about it because it would mean letting the apartment people know that he was formally here. That’s probably a wise thing to do, but I wanted to make sure that’s what he wanted to do. I’m not sure if they would push resigning a new lease and with that might come more money that I’d be responsible for if he were to leave. He also stated that he’s going to need getting a PO Box … that move makes sense … but, he’s going to want to make sure which bills are his and which are hers. Obviously, they should no longer be sharing credit cards. Today, we need to make an investment in getting city stickers too.
He’s either going to need a permanent address or he’s going to need a visitor pass.
We’ll have to see.
One of the pillow talk things he said in talking out loud his options was to say that everything here is mine the apartment is mine, etc. I think that has been making him feel uncomfortable, or at least sits on the liability side. In one sense it gives him freedom, but on the other side it makes him feel like he’s on borrowed time. I’ll do whatever there needs to be addressed. I’m not real willing to give up my couch or recliner, but if it meant moving some bedroom things around, I’d be willing to bend. I’d have to go through a grieving point, but I knew that had been a problem at his house … that nothing was his except a few things like is family room chair. I think he is going to miss his glider, but he won’t want to take it away from his son either.
If he decides to stay, we’ll have to renegotiate the space. First though we need to clear that its ok for him to stay. Fortunately, he’s been around since day one, so I know Mike trusts him already and the building people are used to him … just not sure how they would feel with extra car in back. Since they all decided to move down and leave the one distant corner unused … I don’t think they could say to much. I’ve got a two bedroom, so I deserve two spaces. Hmpf!
Ok, let’s explore some new areas then ok? I think we are caught up so far.
Hmm, Missy problems again, whoops here she is again. Think she needs more attention. Funny thing as to roommates. Rich is the only other human being the kitties to any other degree trust. They think of the place as theirs yet, but they don’t run and hid when he is over either. Hehehe I can’t say how many times Chief has come over to share the warm bed with my fuzzy bunny and us. Friend says … I think there is a cat in here! Move! Hehehe sorry, sorry kitty likes to rest between Rich’s legs where its ummmm warm! But, then so do I so can you really blame the cat? No, Rich still doesn’t put up with that … he’s got his animal boundaries.
I sure hope his kitty gets attention. Rich said something about his son taking out garbage for the first time in his life. The whole thing is kind of strange, but ok, we were going on.
There is something to say about the kids. I think there is more curiosity, especially with his daughter. I think from what he is saying that the youngest will be the most resilient too me, because he’s the one closest to his wife, and is the one listening to all the things she is going through. He says that he is going to keep minimizing the talk about us meaning me and us, and he considers his sexual life to be too private to be discussed by his family. We both agree that everything that could be discussed with his kids, could be going back to the mother, so we have to be considerate of her space. I also know that the kids will protect the mother at all costs. And, that I never want to get in between the kids and their parents.
It’s the same with me and we discussed this with Rich last night. In his family if he has to have firmer boundaries, then that’s the way it will be, but in my family if my kids know there is sex, then that is ok too, because it is my side. I think we each need to define our own rules. I told him that I thought the mechanics of sex could be “off-line.”
Hmm, combination of having had cereal and now Missy purring on my arms is making me kind of sleepy. What happened there? I think she does this after a little milk.
Oh she heard wants to take me to bed … hold on.
Hmm ok … good morning … we just woke up again. It’s about 7 am. I think I slept for about 1 ½ hours. I woke up thinking of the dream I had the first day that things happened. I sent a copy to Dr. Marvin and Deb. I figured I’d show Rich eventually, but not now … I don’t want to get him upset because of the woman dying part. I asked him though a day or two what would happen if she committed suicide and could he live through that. He shook his head and said there would be nothing he could do. I hope like hell that never happens. But, I had to say this set of thoughts was still worrying me. Probably is him too.
So, again let’s figure out next? Absolutely have to write the paper today, but I think not ‘til after Rich leaves. I think he’s planning a full day today of work, game this evening, then he’s meeting with his son, and then he’s going to meet up with Doug. I don’t think that last meeting happens until 8 pm tonight, so I might not see him again until tomorrow. I hope he doesn’t wear himself out. There’d be no end to the scolding hehehe. Silly boy.
Our own plans for the day just include the paper and Dr. Marvin at 4:30 pm. Woo Hoo and a piece of cake too! If we’re not going to be together tonight, we’ll have to share our cake time this morning YAYYYYYYY!!!! Good deal!
Oh oh … Just went to the bathroom and when we were finished noticed smoochie face was up … hope we didn’t wake him … though it is 7:30 am. I suppose that’s a good up time … I hope he didn’t stay up too long last night. I think it was about 3 am when we’d bumped into him, but I’m not sure … let me check. Shoot, I didn’t right it down. Ah well. He’s on the phone, oh oh there’s
Hmm, he’s up … he’s not … he’s over … silly phone sure rings a lot. You can be sure my phone doesn’t have those bad habits!
Hmm, looks like I’m going to have to get ready soon. We’re going over to the village hall cuz we both need parking stickers. Hmm, might need to talk about talking to my building people first. He has to register an address he’s staying at … if my apartment guy said no, that would mean registering over at his friends and sneaking him in here. Hmm we’ll see. Oh no … he was in the bathroom door for his shower, and then like his 5th phone rang. My gosh Its not even 8 am! Those people are silly. I think this is going to be a natural thing where he answers the phone in the back. It’s a nice compromise, in that I can hear his voice, but not the words. That way my free ear space won’t be intruded on.
When he was up earlier, we told him about the dream and his wife sending the invitation to her blog. He wasn’t sure of all that either, but we both decided just to let it go. He asked what I had interpreted of the dream. I was a little squeamish about talking of death, but I did say it was peculiar that he had been set free by her on the same morning I had had the dream. He said something about this thing maybe taking longer than it might have seen and be messier, but that he’s taking his younger son’s advise that it might be time to get out. He’s repeated that several times, so it apparently means a lot to him.
Oh man I’m such a lech. Every time I have an opportunity to pass by him I’m trying to reach down, around … well you know … He’s got to be constantly on his guard, or someone is going to be drawing him toward the bedroom, hmmm??? This is probably not so good. You stop that now! K? Quit giggling! *Sigh*
Ok, what else … he went to the card game and nobody was saying anything direct, but they were all concerned about how he was feeling. Not the traditional guy range of thoughts. He thought that maybe his buddy Bob, tipped them off. I think he felt supported by the guys anyway. So that’s a good thing. We forgot to ask him if he won though and if they’d liked the lamb cake. You know that’s going to come up in a conversation. He’s taking his shower now though so we’ve got to give him space. I think we’re throwing off his schedule, because he’s not used to talking to anyone in the morning. Fat chance he’s going to get by there. AHA! That be something he could hold me to!
At some point, I’m going to have to stop giving you a play by play, but I’ve always written about what was on my mind as I was writing, and we’ve never had this much excitement in the house before. Nakid men running all about whooo … that’s hot stuff! Wow … now he is shaving … Maybe I should give him some privacy, but maybe he needs help? Control myself? HMMMM? Damn. Well that’s kinda sucky then. HMPF!
I’d be less than a full-decked woman if I was going to be ignoring all these curiosities. Oops better put something on real quick just to get to the village hall and back. Oh oh … think he’s cleaning the shower water is back on and the shower is over. Couldn’t gotten me to do that with 10 foot pole. Better get dressed. BRB.
Pswhoo back. Beat him. This is going to be a new game of can I do the right thing before you tell me what I was supposed to have done. Round One VICTOR!!! Hehehe
8:12 – government opens in 18 minutes. Let’s get out the lamb cake. Well, gee that’s a really good idea! Should have done it while he was showering, but I didn’t want to confuse him. Woo HOOO Nakid man crossing!
Hmm, ok, we’re back. Not sure if we’re all settled though. We just got back from the Court house. We got the new vehicle sticker and a pass for our friend. It took a few minutes, but there was a booth to sit in while our friend was taking care of his pass. He’s good to park on the street until the end of April. He’s also good to park on the street over by his friends house. I had wanted to ask if he became permanent, but he cut me off and said he’d explain later. And, then on the way out he said something about a couple of people parked in cars outside my apartment when we left here this morning. I had only seen the one, but I had planned to talk to him about that too. It is an older man parked in an SUV. Gray hair and mustache and both when we left and when we came back he was sitting opposite Rich’s car holding a newspaper. He seemed attentive too. We’re thinking the same thing Rich was thinking in that it could have been a detective hired by the wife. We knew that she had the address. Previous to this we had been talking over the thought of having him stay at Bob’s. It might seem more plausible now, but we’ll have to talk some more.
There I feel better. We just talked to sweetie pie. We told him that the guy was still parked across the street reading his newspaper. Rich had said that the other guy was down the block and another had turned the corner just at the right time.
The one thought I just had was that the phone could be bugged. I’m really in a paranoid state right now though, although more calmed down than before. He said a few interesting things though in that if he already acknowledged there was being sex and that it was a long-term relationship with his kids, there would be no reason to see if we were staying together. He’s going to park his car over at Bob’s and walk over later tonight, but even then … I think if I were a detective, I would notice him walking over. It does tell me a few things like to make sure our apartment curtain got shut before dusk and that I open it regularly in the morning, but that I be dressed appropriately. If we’re being spied on, I should have my dignity yet. I think that if that car is still sitting out there, I will call the police and ask if that is appropriate. Maybe detectives have rights to sit outside and stalk? I don’t know. I’m not sure in Brookfield how that goes.
We talked about him contacting a lawyer. He says that he wants to see if there is a response from his wife today to something he had written and he wants to talk to his younger son tonight. But, that yes, he would get a lawyer, although his preference would be to get an arbitrator. That would be the ideal situation. He wants to work things out amiable with his wife. That’s fair. He is still going over the big picture. He said this last time he is 99.99% sure that he wants a divorce. That’s the most strongly it has been put so far. He’s making very progressive steps of freeing himself, though he admitted that this was going to take a while. I told him that this sort of thing could take years. I had been separated 1 ½ years, then there was another 1 ½ years getting divorced. I’m under no illusions. Hmm, I wonder if the person downstairs has noticed the extra parkers. No, better to keep her with as little information as possible. I’d like to say that she was on our side, but she’d spill to the first person who asked. Our poor friend, he woke up saying that it will probably get worse and that he was feeling much too happy waking up in the morning. Hmm, it should be like this every day though. People have a right to feel happy. I think if there is any reason to get divorced … holding back sexually for 20 some years might be a reason. Eh. Not going to get into that.
Ok, so … it’s 9:50 am. Is there anything else I have to think through before we get on to school? I’m not sure.
I’d like to say something here though maybe about the nature of being in a love affair … This has been going on so long that I don’t know how newsworthy it could be. I’m trying to distinguish in my mind the difference between what is happening in our relationship and in the relationship to famous people who “get caught.” It seems in this day and age there is not too much toward getting caught … it’s more the deceit. So, now she knows … we all cut down the deceit. I think the roughest point would be if she decided to bring down his business connections. She obviously knows JVS number and St. Rose. She could even figure out his umpiring. Where Rich is solid at trying to protect some of her lifestyle, she might be cutting her throat in trying to ruin “his” lifestyle. She could be trying to build up a case to discredit him at his work. I’m trying to think through the worst case scenario in that we would both be fired. But, then I would think we’d both find new jobs, and we would do what we needed to do. I think at this point he is willing to throw most of his life behind as far as his assets. He said there were really none and that he had had the house, but now he is willing to let her continue living there and giving it to his son. He’s not out to make a bankroll … he’ is willing to make her payments. I don’t think you could get more generous. I think as to me personally, she could interfere with my job and potentially interfere with my degree. If she was to do it and some way gets by with it, I would say … ok, fine. It’s gone … let’s start again. I’d like to think that she can’t take away my books or mind.
But, this may again be us on a more paranoid view? I don’t know … it’s a good idea to make up case scenarios.
Hmm, took a small break to make some coffee. I hear the sound now and it makes us happy. Our friend said that today we should get some more fruit in the house if that would help us. Hmm, I wonder if I have one more orange or grapefruit, or whether an apple or banana might not do.
AHA! One more grapefruit … and it is 10 am.
Ahh. That was good and the new coffee ready.
Can I say something else here? I want to wake-up and be as happy as happy can be with Rich here. We are completely smitten with him as if this were a brand new day and all those 14 long years had added up to this very moment. I wish I could explain more clearly of the impact I am feeling. We’re not talking just that feeling although it is good of having orgasms. I know that in itself opens vessels to the mind, but this is a feeling that almost has to be muted in confusion to lessen its strength in that I think knowing him might blow me away into realms so deep I might never allow myself to turn the page for fear that I was not capable of such joy.
I’m saying this with not being in the feeling, because when you are there directly it seems effervescent. Something happening in an exploding manner to strong to hold as if it were the task to count all the bubbles as the break open their pollen. I know that probably sounds silly, but we’re struggling with old words to new concepts.
I think too there is a certain affect because we have long since taken a path of writing the things that we are experiencing, at the moment that we are thinking. So we are voyering into our own mind and life and now the life more directly of our friend. We made sure that he knew we were writing about us, and us and him and that most of this week’s writing was about things that were happening due to the big changes. I also told him what the codes were to my aol and to my blog. He’s the only other human being that has this. I wanted him to know that if he ever wanted to check up on me … that all he would need do is open my correspondence. That would seem fair to me, especially since he’s given me the openness to be writing of him.
I will ask sometime soon how it feels to be the object of all my attention literally, and in contemplation.
One day I still would like to publish. I don’t mean to offend his wife or either of the families, so it will be many years away from the time I’d like or my grandchildren can make these words alive out in the world, but I have to hold onto that hope that one day the words will live in the minds of others, even if its only to discuss my mini-bucks or in addressing of the two critters that come to share my computer space. I can’t tell you exactly how it is that all these things carry a certain weight and priority. I don’t want to cut myself or selves down in that the material will be used to lull one into a good nights’ sleep, but more as an act of engagement that as you read these words, you should know that I thought of you and who you might be.
I’m thinking if you’ve read along a series, that this week, we began a new book.
And, if you picked it up fresh, you are wondering if to had had an affair would have been morally reprehensible. Because you would have been aware that its being caught has happened. Clarity has been given in that – if any need for a confession need take place, its happening and over this next long course, we will see how the lives of each of the involved families takes place. Rich said something this morning of someday if our two families were to unite. I think what a strange thing that might be, but it entertains my curiosity to think that Rich could be thinking that one day this might be a possibility. Hehehe I might have to tell him that so far at least one of my sons has claimed his kids seem a little like shoot what was his term.
I’ll have to look it up. Ah yes, a bit “hippie-dippie.” I think this is from someone who isn’t seeing his mothers long hair, odd dress-style, writing, and belief in happiness. I fall right into place, which is something he thought somewhat funny. I had shown Maury … Sharon, Chris, and Jon’s site. It was like by the way … um these people are now a part of my upfront life. I have to be concerned with not necessarily changing myself, but at least of making a good impression. I’ve known only of them in a story tale like manner of listening to so many stories of a father who loves and cherishes the ground they walk on. Hehehe Its’ not any different the way I feel about my boys, even that certain son who is walking down his own confused trail.
Hmm, and then of course there is my next son whose turning into a possum and by that I mean he’s hiding. Not sure what is up with that. I would like to think that he’s looking into job options and furthering his existence. Wow. That be cool. But, in case he’s becoming a couch potato we’ll want to hear how that is going as well.
Miss the darn kid!
Hmm, had a disconnection problem. First thing we thought is if someone hasn’t already done it they are hacking into our phone and cable lines. I know this is what happens to your mind at this state. It will be ok when my phone and cable resume. I know the bill has paid and I didn’t do anything to stop the service so it most likely them and not us. Again, hopefully it will resume soon, and in the meantime there is no reason I cannot continue to write.
It’s about noon right now and we’ll be seeing Dr. M at 4:30, so that means we should leave about let’s say quarter after 3 or 3:30 pm. That should give us enough time with extra to spare. I think we should take a late shower though … we’d just gotten dressed to do the city stuff. Should we do it now? We’ve stopped anyway to have lunch and we read a self-publishing guide. I wrote down a quick note to our friend what to do if anything were ever to happen to us. The pen wasn’t very good, but it would get the message across. The note says that if anything were to happen to us that Rich should share the site access with kids and Dr. M. and that one of them should publish with Putnam or Trafford . The first I think is publishing multiples, and the next is a self-publishing place with reasonable costs. I’m thinking though am I getting Putnam confused with another that just starts with P? I’d go with the one that does so much on dissociation.
AHA! We’re connecting again. *Sigh* Always feel more connected when on-line is up.
I don’t know where we were … let me read-up.
Ack more connection problems. Definiately time then to take that shower. BRB.
Pswhoo … all done with that.
Ok, the Kermit the frog person is back. Now that I am I have to appreciate that it is after 12:30 pm. And we’re still at a place that all we want to think about is Rich and that whole situation. He would have contacted me if there was anything I had to know. My mind floats back to that face of his when he appeared early for our date and stated that his wife had gotten the email. There was a period of shock, and then after a little time we started taking down the blogs. But, I guess the important part I’m thinking of right now is that he was here to deliver the message and that he is here still … not literally, but after his day is done and he is still in my life. He chose to stay with us rather than go to his old house.
Hmm, how do I make it more his home … is there some way I can give him half the
couch, tv., drapes and shelves? It’s funny, I guess I’ve been spending so much time thinking of how the change is affecting him, I haven’t considered what it is like to inherit a room-mate. Just think I have a room-mate who is my best friend. I never would have thought that in a million years.
Hmm, checking in at the apartment again … Mike is on the other line. I find in most situations the best idea is to be honest … so we’ll ask him what are short and long-term options are, because Rich’s situation has changed. I hope he’ll call back in a few minutes. We need to if that works out discuss with him the car situation and if we can park one of our vehicles in front of or in back of the other. I’ve seen that happen before like in the parking lot right next to ours. It’s a little frustrating, because there is legitimately another spot, but it is in the far corner and you can’t really get out unless another car is moved. So, that really is no deal. I think it had worked before because someone had a car that they were storing. But, also it changed because someone purchased a bigger vehicle. Doesn’t mean that we should suffer, especially if we become a two car team. We’ll just have to juggle cars. If Mike approves it means asking the guy downstairs if we can have the space at the end instead of second to the end. That way we don’t interrupt anyone’s flow. I think it will work and Mike’s always been reasonable. I’m a little worried because if he wanted to change the rent to include Rich on a lease then it might cost extra for a second person, but it is a two bedroom apartment like I said shouldn’t be any problem. Especially, because Mike has known Rich all along … he was there the first day of meeting Mike and seeing the apartment.
Ok, now back more to me. I wonder if Dr. M. can help me pull out these elusive feelings. For example, is there anything in the world I lose by just having gotten “hopefully” a new roommate. Ok, and we’re thinking past here that our new roommate cooks. Hehehe. Oh man I’m so gosh darn lucky! Well, I have extra soap and shampoo and a shaver now in my bathroom. That is different. Hmm, I wonder if I should clear out a drawer for his stuff, that might be handy.
Well, that wasn’t too bad. We got through a couple of things. First is that Mike called back. He’s just so nice. He’s very clear-headed. I explained the situation and he said well, your such a good tenant that you can do it whichever way you want. He said he could make up a new lease or just let it be. I explained that he’d been my friend for 14 years, but he was just going through a divorce. I also asked about the parking and he said, I don’t see why not; just ask the other tenant if we can switch spaces. I think out of courtesy, if Rich decides to stay here that we will tell the lady downstairs that he’s living and parking here. She can tell the rest of the apartment if they ask, but she’s the only one we’re concerned with.
I feel mostly like she’d protect our interest. She came out the other day while I was washing clothes and turned off a light, but I could depend that she would do something to recognize who was using the laundry. Her kitchen runs along that wall and she’s kind of into everything. But, she hasn’t ever said nor done one mean thing that I can remember. Just she’s the mother hen type. It is nice to have one of those in the building.
The other thing that happened is that I cleaned out both small drawers in the bathroom. I put my things that weren’t ready to throw away in one drawer and I gave him the other. I think he felt comfortable in leaving out his shampoo and soap and shaver and toothbrush. To tell you a secret … we are now sharing a tooth brush. We had extra ends for our new electric one … and he seems to have taken to it like a fish! Good good good! I think it’s the most romantic thing sharing the toothpaste handle. I don’t know if he’s caught on yet to the part where it shifts gears every 30 seconds and he’s supposed to brush for 2 minutes. We’ll need to give him a quiz tomorrow morning. It’s new fangled!
How did you get into 3?
"The husband and I had gone to the Rockies during the summer of 1975...back in '76...but then in that we were saving for our first house purchase - had to not go in '77. So said husband brought home LP 'ROCKY MOUNTAIN HIGH' and the following 20+ years is history! LOVED JD and most ALL that he stood for! MISS HIM SO!!"
Umm, I went over to the other woman’s site. This is what she said as her only reference to marriage. She had a list of songs that were numbered 1-10 and on one response she said the above. So I guess he is now “The husband” or “said husband.”
And, he is only being remembered for taking her to the Rockies prior to house purchase and for buying her first John Denver. That’s pretty ironic since John Denver has been my favorite for quite awhile too. But, the one she claimed to miss was a dead rock star not her husband. I don’t get that at all. I thought she might say something in her blog, but she’s still playing kid games. Eh, we’ll tell Rich and then move on.
We might get a little mushy here; we turned on music from the heart.
There’s so many new thoughts to think … I am back to wanting to think sweetie pie.
He seemed optimistic when we contacted him. He thought he would be ready to make some decisions by Monday. I think he is going to park over at his friends tonight and walk over here. I think one of the things that he doesn’t want is to disturb the relationship his friend has to his girl. He was letting me know his schedule in general. It has changed a little in that his game was canceled so he was going to try seeing both his son and his other best friend earlier so that he would be back here earlier. Then he said that he arranged a game out toward where his mother lives. So on Monday, if he hasn’t talked to her by then, he will tell her. I am just not quite ready for that one, though if I were to meet anyone, I would think she or Bob would be the first. Bob is only two blocks over (short blocks). It would be interesting to invite him over. Man, we don’t invite anyone over that be so strange that we could hang with Rich and his friend. We’ll have to introduce that thought to Rich.
I think Rich will one day get his own apartment because he wants something that is his. I think the ideal situation would be that he get an apartment on the second floor. It could happen that one of those tenants would move. I’m not sure which side I would want him on. I like the thought that he be just underneath me, but I also like the thought of being in the apartment opposite ours so everything would be in reverse. I think the best would be though if he got the other third floor apartment. Because then we could open the doors and be connected like in a suite.
He could decorate to his heart content. That be sooo darn cool. Well, let’s hope he gets through the next part and then we’ll see where we go from there. As much as I love him here I think his heart is in getting his own place. But, for now better his money is freed up, because he won’t be able to use the house for collateral to get more money if that was necessary. Like he wants to pay for the daughters lawyer and his older sons home. Well see. I think he’s worried about the cost of lawyers. Sure be nice to go through it quiet. I’m glad he is going to be with his kids over the weekend. That will be good for him, and I’m used to being by myself, and hopefully will be motivated to write that paper.
What’s next. Ahh, I just did something very interesting. We’ll tell him tonight.
Hopefully, I can stay up as late as he comes home. But, I called the apartment people back and talked to Juanita. I am familiar with her voice now so I told her to leave Mike the message and he wouldn’t have to call back, but if an apartment in this building became available could he give us a call. I think it’s a $10,000 year expense plus he’d have to get furniture slowly, but if he wants more freedom, that is how he could do it. Anyway we will be on the alert list. We’ll see which apartment goes next. There are 3 of us who have been here for at least 7 years and the other three are newer. Who knows how long they’ll stay. Ok, next. I like the idea that he could settle in and I don’t have to move. Just he could probably use that $10,000. But, then he could set up a room especially to have his kids sleep over. Maybe too though, we are going to need thinking for awhile, of making this place presentable for visitors. And, if his daughter or son were in town, would they be comfortable in that back bedroom.
Maybe we could use the back bedroom as a guest room? Or, if one of his family were there, I could tough it out back there, and they could sleep on the couch. There is room for two people to sleep on the couch, but I doubt it would happen that way. I just don’t want to take up the living space if he were to be up with one of the kids late. They would need the living room, and probably like my kids use the computer and TV. We should though for the record, clear at least half the closet and dressers, plus leave the upper space cleaned off. That would mean getting the towels and books put away. Ok, this doesn’t have to be done immediately, and probably it will turn the kids stomach, but I could see it happening … there is a lot of room over at the old house, but there isn’t enough space to meet with Rich.
Ok, ok … we’ll talk to Rich about cleaning all the closets. We’ll ask him to help maybe after the new semester starts. I don’t need much. I will ask Maury to keep or store the stuffed animals when I find them, and otherwise it is time to throw some stuff. Either that or we could repack the closet downstairs better. I saw an open closet on how someone else did it. They had boxes stacked wall to wall and straight up. It was nice.
I just thought I should have done laundry, but I forgot. Now it’s just an hour from leaving better not even think about it. I wonder what would happen if I got out a box. Could I throw something away? I know the last time I was this motivated I got rid of all the paperwork connecting me to the ex. This is a new era. I want to make the best of it.
Pshwoo Ok, that’s done … we’re going to sit here and calm down a second and then get going. We did good. We needed to use the other dresser, but we emptied the tall one in my old bedroom so that Rich could use it. It is bigger than it looks, but I think we’re going to need cleaning out the other dresser too with the deep squared drawers. I looked at the closet with all the boxes and I know that it could get down to a more reasonable size, but it would take his help to get them moved around. There are two laundry baskets so that worked out good. There’s a lot of closet emptying to do in both rooms. I hope he saves me enough time in a week or two and we can start that project. My theory is that most the stuff in my closets hasn’t been touched for seven years, we can get rid of it. I don’t think I’m ready to get rid of the treadmill, but maybe things can be rearranged. We’ll have to talk about it. I’m thinking that Rich could use the brown desk in the back bedroom more for his computer and paperwork, if we can somehow get the treadmill in the other bedroom. That’s going to be hard to move. And, I’m not sure there is enough room.
We’ll have to see. And, if there is room, I would like to see him get the TV connected in there … The old TV is smaller, but fine. It could go on top of the dresser in case he wants to watch it laying down. I think we would have to get cable back there, but that is possible. Maybe we could have the cable guys come back. I think Rich needs the extra channels. We might be able to get the wi-fi too? I’m not sure what it would take to get his computer set up on-line anywhere in the house. But, we should talk about that. Cuz I think it is possible. Ok, ok … better get in the washroom and out the door. I know I’m still going early, but we’re processing. It’s all possible.
Ok, out the door, bye!
posted by Ann Marie @ 4/06/2007 05:20:00 AM
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