Ok, we're going to focus? Hmm?
Dear Dr. Marvin,This is mi ... I just wanted to write for a few minutes. I am at work and its about 9 am. Rich is here at St. Rose, he got in about a half an hour ago. I don't think he stops crying too much ... but it’s in a man type way that he keeps blowing his eyes and wiping his eyes. He decided since JVS isn’t open today that he might want to do work from here so he makes a good presence. I’m glad that he’s here. We’re going to try giving him some space just do “LITTLE” checking in.
He’s staying at our place right now though that might change. He’s telling people that he is staying at his friend Bob’s place. Bob lives a couple of blocks away from me … Just in back. You probably know that already, right? Sorry.
Missy decided we should be up at 3 am this morning, and we were too excited to go back to bed. Rich didn’t get in until 7:30-8 pm last night. I had already ate. He went to his ball game as scheduled. I stayed with him sharing slurpees and we talked as we watched him cook for himself. Usually he eats the same dinners as he makes for us. So things were around. Afterward, he let me take him to bed … things were harder in that he still wipes his eyes, but he let me rub stuff and the sex stuff happened. We teased about it being rebound sex. He was able to do some of the regular stuff like sighing and smiling. I think he was pleased with himself after because things were still working right. We sat and talked in the living room for a few minutes and then we let him put us down on the recliner and he went into the bedroom with a National Geographic magazine we’ve got on the coffee table. Good Ann.
We woke up at 3 am and wrote in the blog. It’s a little different now because I can use real names. Just me and me. I still feel like I’m writing to whatever audience I usually write to. I think that I write with the thought in mind that my Granddaughter’s will publish me one day.
As of this morning all 3 of Rich’s children know … and they are each being supportive of him. I think the funniest was his daughter this morning scolding him that he would have to call in now to her twice a day. I thought that was great … made him smile. I asked; see they all still love you right? He said they were being very protective of him … He then goes into reminding them to take care of their mother. This morning he was discussing paying her mortgage so she and his son can stay in the house. I think that’s a wonderful gesture, but we keep encouraging that he talk to a lawyer before he makes any deals, because most likely she is going to take what he gives her and she’ll want more. Like there will be maintenance costs … such as that $7,000 bathroom renovation he’d been trying to save for. She’ll push him over the edge.
Ok, we weren’t going to get into her stuff … just I keep worrying about everything … trying to figure stuff out. I talked to Maury mostly through IM .. I will forward you a copy of that. I think it is very pleasing as to his encouragement, but we had again been lost in tracing down what it was that kept drawing us to his family that “watching” after their internet presence. Pretty sure they are doing the same. I don’t know which of us will be the worst stalker.
Ok, I just have to focus here, right? I can do this? I know that I gotta be doing work, just need to decide that the rest of this is going to be ok if I don’t be looking at.
Sister has the books, I would have been working on, so I think I’m going to try just entering normal information into the Paper Tiger today … not anything real hard. I think we told you state had been through last week and had given us a 100% I don’t have to worry about the Qnotes until beginning of next week. Just me and CARF right?
We’ve been fussing with this headache though … it was a real one earlier this morning and we’d taken aspirin and it had gone away … now we’re just flirting with it. Feel jumpy. We did take our medicine. Just everything has changed, even the rules. I wish I knew for sure that Rich could stay at our place. I don’t’ want to worry about him not being there, but then I found ourselves last night worrying that he was going to be ok getting there, and that he was going to be able to fall asleep or that I might wake him up. I waited though until about 30-40 minutes before I left. After our shower we finally got in bed to snuggle him proper. I just want to hold him. But, then we talked and he was going to set a firm line and we were like sure wouldn’t expect any differently … He was reasserting his lines such as he’ll be out playing cards, going fishing, doing ball games and such. I think the only moments he gave himself extra was in thinking he was going to save an hour coming and going from work because Brookfield is so much closer.
For the record, his friend Bob said he could stay there and this morning he was talking about getting a separate apartment. But, he is going to need figuring where his money is at first. He worries about the money a lot. We told him that he doesn’t have to pay to live at our place. I think he appreciates how much we want him to stay, but we told him last night after he got home that we weren’t going to call and check on him … that it wouldn’t be appropriate on his first night of being single. I think everyone knows now except his mother and brother. He doesn’t want to bother his mother, but we told him to get his supports set up. He smiled and said I have plenty of support. The silly goose. I know his mother doesn’t like the wife … so we’re hoping that it will be ok.
Ok, ok shhhhhhhhh we got to make ourselves leave … we can do this, right? I mean go to work? It will be ok? Ok, ok … we’re going to do this. Hope to talk to you soon though. Would lunch be ok? Sorry, sorry … I know go to work Ann.
Us
posted by Ann Marie @ 4/03/2007 09:37:00 AM
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