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Saturday, December 10, 2005

Please feel free to join DID discussion :)

Please click on title to view "official" word on DIDdom :) (Dissociative Identity Disorder or Multiple Personality Disorder - Same thing) Shoot ... this isn't it ... darn Amazon this download only includes DID as a dissociative disorder. Ok, well I guess we gotta start somewhere. Scroll down though a couple of good paragraphs introducing what mal is talking about :)

Here is where we are at at the present :)

Hi, Ayn et al.

We've been reading your early entries (wow! over 2 1/2 years!) and we've been thinking over the comment you left that some people are intimidated by you. We'd like to explain why we don't feel that way.

Every individual, one with MPD such as yourselves and many without, is comprised of many personalities, or 'facets', as we call them. We have on previous occasions described ourselves as if we were jigsaw puzzles composed of many pieces.

Take myself (Mal) as an example. Two of my more prominent "personalities" are that of 'puzzle solver' and 'puzzle constructor'. While these two facets obviously share an interest, differing qualities are required in order to function as one or the other. The 'puzzle solver' must exercise the ability to decode clues or recognize patterns, and the 'puzzle constructor' must be able to learn and understand the basic elements of what constitutes a puzzle and assemble them into a coherent whole. To function effectively as one or the other requires different states of mind.

I could go into long, boring detail about my various facets, but I think that this is enough to elucidate my point. What you and I share in common is the assemblage in one body of many distinct personalities, all of them differing to some degree in skills and temperament. We also share something else - you have Dear Heart, who often hides deep within. I have a 'demon' that I have had to bury deep within and seal away - I have a name for that demon, it is called Rage.

Our sole difference, it seems, lies in the fact that while I call my various facets by description, such as video game player, enjoyer of mysteries, student of finance, et al., you bestow upon your personalities names like Corey, Sarah, Ayn, et al. We're much alike after all, aren't we, Ayn? Doesn't my delineation of myself appear to describe someone who might have MPD?

You had mentioned in your journal that some doctors who you were seeing urged upon you the notion of "integration." Those doctors do not seem very educated, for if they were, they would understand that you are already integrated, as integrated as I am. When I cook dinner, I am utilizing completely different abilities and skills than when I am quietly enjoying a good read. In effect, these are two separate people focussed on and engaged in disparate activities, yet they are both me, just as your personalities are all you.

What we're trying to say, Ayn, or whoever is reading this, is that you are no different from us, we do not view you as someone suffering from a disorder. We see you, quite simply, as someone just like us.

Hugs from us both,

Bon & Mal

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Dear Bon and Mal,

Wooo HOOO!!! This is a great letter and although we're still battling the "disorder" of parts, we can very much appreciate your thoughts here. Christina posted a comment similar to having multiple facets within the last couple of days, but you have taken it to a new art form! I would like permission to post your letter if I may ... I'd like to then consider our next thoughts toward this. It is an important part of my life to be dissimilar, could we as well meld/render to a "normal" dissociative/associative being by considering self no different than others? Pretty high risk here! First thought is to tremble at the thought of integration or in being "regular," but then you might say this is a wrong spirited goal. At, least we would think as that. Another consideration is in the amount of choice and directive one has with many personalities, or being of multiple personality. HEHEH, BUT ... we have to finish one more paper first before doin something more funner :)

Thanks for the response!

Us's

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In a message dated 12/10/2005 11:12:06 AM Central Standard Time, Aynetal3 writes:

I would like permission to post your letter if I may ...
Feel free, it's all yours.

It is an important part of my life to be dissimilar, could we as well meld/render to a "normal" dissociative/associative being by considering self no different than others?

It's an important part of every life to be dissimilar to others, many people feel that way. And we already think of you as being a normal dissociative/associative being, it's just that perhaps you process things a little differently. You assign personalities to the separate pieces of yourself, where most people don't consider their different parts to be separate, although the parts of themselves are assigned to different tasks, just as your personalities are. There is very little real difference.

Another consideration is in the amount of choice and directive one has with many personalities, or being of multiple personality.

If you feel better about yourself by thinking in that fashion, then by all means continue to live your lives. We simply wanted to demonstrate that the underlying (oh, gosh, I don't know what word to use here - facts, maybe?) are the same for those with MPD and for those without. We all operate in the same respect, but you are more aware and sensitive to the various parts of yourselves.

Hugs,
Bon & Mal

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Ok, *giggle* next round … What do you think? HEHE We DON'T get to add our next view until AFTER next paper is complete! Or, maybe V will give us one of those raised eye brows! Rushing now ... Sweetie Pie is due as of 7 minutes ago ... Yikes. What didn't I do on HIS list? Damn shower ... Be back soon! Love you guys! Hey'd you hear about the brownies T left? Oh my gosh she still has a fondue pot! I bet there is cheese in the fridge!