An Unexpected Day
Good morning. This is me and we’re just now getting to the part we might want to right a little. It’s 3:30 pm. It seems to be a long day.This morning I did my posting from previous days and headed out, but I got a call and decided instead to come home to take care of things proper. I won’t go into that, but the day has been at best sad.
I think good will come of the day, but it might be quite a long road before we get there.
Ok, bearing all that aside, I wanted to say we are here! We’ve also been over to MP.com and Facebook. It’s been seemingly a quiet day in those regards. I was a little nervous because of a message I’d left in one of the threads. It concerned another woman competitively dogging something I had said.
I had written that the boys had trained me early that when they come over they come to visit, not to move my boxes and fix my sinks. The woman … the one woman that is easiest of all people at MP.com to like challenged the statement by saying how proud she was of her son for helping her and he inferred that that had made him a man.
Well, of course then this would be like saying that my son ISn’t a man.
Yeah, yeah … like I’m going to let that sit HMPF!
One of the mothers’ agreed with what should seem like an obvious statement … of course we want our kids to help, it’s just that we ask them to do things sometimes that we should be doing ourselves. It’s in my nature that I would rather help my kids if given a choice than having them help me. There is the consideration of course that Rich and I take care of things here pretty good – especially him.
So, I stated the analogy of giving a village fish, rather than the better teaching them how to fish. I compared myself to the village people. Our boys had taught us by doing things that I could as an adult; I would have accepted their help in learning to fish. I also told them about a story I think I’ve mentioned here once or twice. Basically, it is a story of having been living with them and waking up on the couch and pitifully moaning who’s going to get me a Slurpee! I think eventually that was the straw that broke the boys back.
I always offered to pay for a Slurpee with whoever was going, but we were relentless that somebody SHOULD go. That’s a terrible thing to put on your kid. After all I had two good legs, a need and ability to take care of the task. I was just being helpless and lazy. The boys shouldn’t have had to take care of their mother. It gave them the wrong message in that they should be the responsible ones. That was though supposed to be MY job.
This woman at MP.com that was trying to deflate me went as far as stating that not only did her kid move boxes and clean garages and such, but he also rubbed her feet when she was tired.
OMG. That about made us go over the edge. I told that to Maury today while shaking my head and feeling a cold buzz. How could ANY one do that to their kid. Thinking now it’s just too many sensations. You hear all the time Rich and us giving massages, but I feel it’s tremendously un-right to have your kids in that relation.
I think the mother was very degrading of her son’s trust in her in having him do this for her, but as well to be broadcasting it.
I don’t know … don’t want to go any further there. Maybe some of you have differing opinions. I think if I were very old and there were no others to take care of my feet, I might be forced to have help even from my son. But, you better believe it it would be because I was on my death bed with simply no other alternatives. I’m thinking this is a strong enough reaction to make me believe it has ties to my past of having had bad incestual relationships to family members. I believe when saying hello and good-bye to your kids it’s ok and good to give us smooch on the neck when you give them a hug, but other than that … we’re pretty much a hands off mom.
Ok, girls let’s back it down.
Pswhoo. Thank goodness … I just wrote to Vickie and was able to talk about the other situation a little. I’ve got to admit we’ve been feeling angry these last couple of days … do bad things always have to happen together?
Hmm, speaking of terrible things, it reminds me that we still have to deal with our student loan overpayment. So now we’re on hold for the minimum of 12 minutes. This is one of those things that have to get done. It looks like we paid $281.46 on 1-7, 1-28, 2-4, 2-11, 2-18, 2-25, 3-4 … Jesus Christ that was almost $2000. Like I don’t NEED that money??? Even passing back just the last 2 would be helpful. I know that Sprint turned back the money … I’m just hoping that they can too. It’s a bank though and I’m not sure what difference that is going to make.
We’re too frustrated to know too much of what we should be typing right now. Maybe if I took off my outer shirt. I feel hot. There’s still a dress underneath – hey we’re decent! Well, most of the time!
Rich called before we got on the phone. He had us go to the kitchen and we worked through together what was on the grocery list. Damn … will he remember the FUDGICLES!!!??? I forgot to tell him that part. Ok, girls reasonably, what do you expect? You can be pretty sure Rich goes to the grocery store KNOWING we’re out of our STUFF!
Hmm, I wonder how Sr. did without us. I’m sure she was ok. But, this was a crisis. She said does this mean that Robin will be on her own. I said YES! I didn’t remind her at the time, but there’s that meeting tomorrow I’m supposed to be going to too. Oh man I hope they can help me. I think the worse situation is that I’m going to need not pay anything for another month, or to take computer money to pay for bills. I had to already take $150 to make sure the phone didn’t get cut off.
WOOHOO!!! Good Luck. She’s going to send some of those checks back! She said that I was paid through June, but she said it was ok to have paid through March and she’d send three of the checks back. That’s would be then for $844.38. That will help a lot, but it looks like it could be up to 20 days before the money comes back … so we might be looking at the end of March. I think I’m going to need paying some more bills before that with the money that’s still in there for the computer. I think I have a balance of like $1000.
The lady was so nice. I feel a great burden is lifted from me. I should get another check at the end of this week, so maybe we can slump our way through now til then. I had money left over from being out with Thom, so I used about $20 to pay for gas last time out. Had I already told you I had left my sunroof open and it turned into a rainroof? I think I will call it this from this day forward. It seems applicable.
Hmm, we called and talked to Rich about these last couple of details. He said something about going to the gym and we said something like … well, we’ll see you later!
Gym, right! Actually I might, but I’ve got shooting pains up my left calve, Yes THAT’S RIGHT … I’m not making it up! There little pings of pain – like electric shocks.
Hmm, left another message with Thom – I’m thinking I’m good for the other brothers.
Maury might call me back today or tomorrow. We’ll have to see.
posted by Ann Marie @ 3/10/2009 06:15:00 AM
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